#RealAvreich,
Please heed hashemisone1’s wise advice and discuss this vital matter only with people who know your family and your son very well. Don’t pay any attention to the trolls on this site who neither know nor care about you, especially since you probably know way more halacha than they do. Believe me, that wouldn’t be very hard.
May your son find his proper zivug when he’s truly ready and build a BN”B!