I have heard countless cases where one of the parties responds to the hazmonos to Beis Din, and states that he/she does not want to divorce at all, and wants to engage in treatment to restore shalom bayis. This is a proverbial delay that guarantees nothing happens for quite some time. And when it comes to these issues, men and women are equally to blame.
TLIK: Why would you assume when one spouse sincerely is requesting shalom bayis, even if the other spouse is insisting on divorce, you’d assume insincerity in simply delaying the inevitable. The reality is that a spouse typically has the right to insist on the continuation of the marriage, as divorce on demand isn’t a right one spouse unilaterally can demand.