Dear n0misorah,
Not very complicated pirakay avos, payrick 1 Mishna 6 says it all, ‘asay lecha rav”, find your self a rav.
Hopefully one day you will find yours, I have ONE rav who is moreh derech for me and a dayan who paskens shailos, when the extended family had issues such as end of life, we asked a rav who is a mumcha in these issues.
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