CS – Point 1. It still doesn’t fit in if you understand the meaning of it.
Point 2. You are just proving my suspicions, it is personal and it is frustrating as heck. There are jerks and bad apples everywhere. Nobody argues that point. But for you to act like this is standard procedure for these institutions is fake news. I don’t blame you for being so incensed about that, I am the same way. But to obsess over all the institutions, casting suspicion on them all on a public forum excessively is not the answer.
I have been badly burned by individual in high religious position. It traumatized me to no end. And damaged
plenty. My response was similar to yours. While it has been about 8 years and I still cannot resolve the issue in my head or heart, I no longer need to carry those trust issues over to everyone in high positions and assume they are all covertly doing the same. We who would never behave that way cannot bear to see such behavior in those we hold in higher esteem. It is a tragic reality out there.
When you want to donate – check the place out. When paying tuition, ask good questions. When faced with a campaign for a school, do your research. But there is no need to act like every school is like the one you mention. And don’t forget that their behaviors are being duly recorded by Hashem.