Rational- you are misrepresenting my response. I have no reason to doubt you, but your unkind general attitude gave me no reason to take it at face value in your first post. Call it the boy who cried wolf in a sense.
Now you go on to explain that thisvreally is the prevailing attitude of some toward shidduchim. I know that, and i don’t participate in it, nor support those who do. But my comment was on the idea that this man went straight to someone’s house with his checkbook. If you said the same exact story but said he sent a shadchan over with the checkbook i wouldn’t have questioned it.
As for your false impression that it is only them who have such heartbreaking flaws in their system or character, no, unfortunately there is much to be repaired on both sides of the isle. And you don’t have to believe that true story either.