Most people in general are hypocrites. We are no different. But we don’t make public policy or state publicly that American women who (wrongly from the POV of orthodox Judaism) are following the law of the land and getting legal abortions should be punished (under what statute or law, federal or otherwise, I don’t know, but Trump said it in 2016).
Also, unlike Trump, most Orthodox Jews have a moral compass. When Trump was asked by Maureen Dowd in the Spring of 2016 if he’s ever been involved with someone who had an abortion, he refused to answer.