@always – I dont know how it is today, but when last I asked, there is no testing at all at BMG or other kollelot. And we have all heard that there are quite a few young men there who learn nothing or very little. I have spoke to a couple of shadchanim who said that mothers have told them this: “My son has no business being in BMG, but thats the only way to make a shidduch”. WRONG!! Whats wrong with a young man that wants to support his family? I’d bet there are plenty of girls who would want a working guy but are afraid to admit it because “menchen velen reden”.
Anyway, the main point is Derech Eretz comes first. To me, if someone has no derech eretz, I dont care if he knows the whole shas; its meaningless. Even if you are the BEST boy in BMG, you still need to respect your wife, parents, etc.
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