@Always ask,
> “That’s not a choice you get to make without a rav
I quoted already multiple opinions about being careful. And also opinions about one kaddish being sufficient. Maybe you can verbalize what exactly makes you so uncomfortable.”
Bottom line, did you just read some opinions and made a decision or did you ask a rov “rochel bitcha hakatan” a/k/a your exact situation, huge difference.
This would be the equivalent of operating the grey area of the law by reading a law book and not consulting a lawyer, people ended in prison for that.