Be very careful before you get caught up in get stories. Two that I know of personally: one of my friends was divorcing a woman who was not quite honest in money. The court ordered that the get be given right after the finances were settled as in distributed not agreed upon.. she decided through her lawyer that the guests should be given 30 days before that and when he disagreed she went around to all the rabbis in the community saying that he was refusing and each one called him in to yell at him.
Next friend divorcing a former friend who’s family was not playing Fair at all wrote a get very early on and the lawyer sent the bais din a letter saying that she refused to accept it. This went on for a year while he was looked at as being a refuser.