Thank you for this thread. I’ll put in my 2 cents for what it’s worth.
The only mitzvos in the Torah we have regarding love, is three: to Hashem, other Jews, and to the Ger.
However I believe in the Shtar tanoi’im or in the kesuva, there is a line to ‘live together with love as is the norm of society (וידורו ביניהם באהבה וחיבה כאורח כל ארעא.)
In a kesuba there are moral obligations like providing honor, food & clothing, that is written, understandably so. However there are things in the marriage contract that aren’t there and that is because it is so absolutely obvious. Nowhere in the contract does it say, the wife and husband should sleep in the same bedroom, eat together on shabbos, or sit in the sukkah together. That’s redundant, because that is what a marriage is all about. So I think that love is something that is so basic, so obvious, and so necessary to have in order for a proper marriage to simply function, it is therefore unnecessary to include this in the contract.
As far a chiyuv, I wouldn’t believe one’s wife is any less included in V’Ohavta L’rayacha Komocha.
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