“Possibly, people get used to a lifestyle and do not understand the halakhic and lifnei-meshuras =-hadin implications.”
and many get used to looking down their noses at what the kollel folks are doing that they don’t even realize how erroneous they are in there speculations about their lives.
Did you really not know that that was not what Avrum said? He was talking, I am sure, about YOU bringing up your annoyance with the lifestyle, NOT how much the subject comes up.