It would not be a violation of kesuba if both sides agree, but you need to be concerned about informed agreement. If a girl is taught that the husbands not working is a mitzva and then she would need to be poretz geder to expect husband to do that, then it might be questionable whether she is freely agreeing. Maybe kollels should have an annual anonymous survey of wives to hear what they desires and needs really are. Rosh kollel’s wife could be a good source. One of baalei musar, sorry do not remember the name, was giving a shiur after shabbos maariv until his wife whispered to him “they have wives”. He broke the schmooze in the middle of the sentence and sent them home. Not clear to me whether he was completely unaware about that, and whether the wife included herself in that list 😉
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