> Whether it is being discussed in the context of shidduch dates or more generally.
I am thinking that we are always trying to find what exactly we should not do and not be like “them” to avoid assimilation or just to feel superior. At the same time, we are neglecting that we should be decent human being, and hopefully more decent than others. Some may not feel like helping a grandma (grandfa for men) cross the road makes them special, but I don’t think Hashem values a mitzva less because it is a neglected one. Maybe more.