Avirah – you claim to be a teacher. Please let me appeal to your teacher side. I will do my best to speak softly so I don’t trigger anything but please listen.
It is obvious that you have a deep hatred for Modern Orthodoxy. It comes out loud and clear in some very harsh tirades. Here’s what I am asking of you. Boys like the OP have no clue what you are talking about. As you know, they are brought up to do what they are doing and many of them strive to be “proud Jews” in the manner they are taught expecting other frum people to be proud/impressed or at least accepting. The boys in these schools have no knowledge of all these haskala issues and background and unfortunately when their questions are met with vitriol it is a horrible sign of lack of personal acceptance and turn-off.
I am not saying your information is wrong, but your approach is most certainly wrong if you approach a boy who may be doing his best to stay shomer mitzvos AS IT WAS TAUGHT TO HIM and you spew disrespect and contempt. If this boy takes your attitude and chooses to stay far away from yeshivas filled with “people like you”, then consider yourself to be responsible for the death of a soul. Because you never know what he could have learned, and who he could have become. Nobody walks into a place that feels that way about him and says, “Hey, maybe I’ll give it a try”. Please, be more observant of your surroundings, take note of your audience, be sensitive of the question behind the question. Please.