Dorah,
Spoken like a feminist, which is obvious from your selected nom de plume.
“Respect is EARNED, not a default position”.
Presumably a husband earned some modicum of respect when his wife agreed to married him. Just as a wife is owed respect by din of being a spouse, before having to EARN additional respect.
Feminism, as evidenced by your ludicrous comment above, has done away with assuming that a husband is entitled to basic respect just by dint of being a person, and a person who is in a spousal relationship.
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