Nomesorah; sorry, can’t let you get away with that claim – you admit that you’re an outsider looking in, so you’re basing this claim on speculation, without having had meaningful connections with people and institutions which matter.
There’s a guy who floats around BMG who tries to induct young men into the gender bender cult..he wears a hat and jacket, and used to be frum. Does that mean that “charedi society is moving towards acceptance of gender change”?. That’s exactly what an untrained eye of an outsider would think if they read the tablet articles on mike moskowitz.
Go to seforim stores in Lakewood. See if this supposed sefer is there. It isn’t. You can find it in Brooklyn, where there’s a big mix, but not in Lakewood, monsey, or especially bnei brak/geulah/meah shaarim. Wont happen.