Amil – there’s no child expense to pay from that time, so why don’t money? Also, you’re assuming that the torah’s position is that a life begins the moment of conception, because the only two perspectives you’ve heard are “my body my choice” and “life starts at conception”. The first one sounds better, and it’s “empowering” so you go with it.
The gemara says that until 40 days there’s no neshoma. Many states also want to restrict it to about that time, when a fetal heartbeat can be detected.
Also, for “strong independent women”, why do they need child support?