“To get back to the point of this thread, those coming to minyanim to schnor wedding funds, I find it unacceptable. I’m a Justice of the Peace, I’d marry them for nothing in my office, enough frum Yidden there to make a minyan and I’ll break out a bottle of scnhaaps and kichel afterwards.”
Why is it unacceptable to ask? Demanding, stalking, bullying, exploiting for donations is nasty business, but you have a problem with asking? Just say no.