Dorah: Many of your Zeidas and Bubbes, living in the Shtetl, would have felt lucky to have a separate bedroom for their six boys from their six girls. Quite a few of your ancestors slept in the small kitchen or dining room. Are you suggesting your zeidas birth was an error?
At least they did have bread, salt and water. Soda they didn’t have and chicken was very infrequent, too. So you surely cannot complain they weren’t fed. (Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here today.)