@AviraDeArah I seem to recall a while back that MO teens would constantly talk about negiah like frum people talked about Lashon Horah. Meaning, that the well-intentioned kids knew it was something they were supposed to do and be careful about, even if it was all around them and they themselvesfaltered from time to time. My understanding was that this was due to a campaign by MO Rabbonim, which is why the phrase “Shomer Negiah” is very common and not, I dunno, “Shomer K’Layim”.
I agree. Many MO communities have accepted goyishe values over Torah values. However, as I’ve stated numerous times before and as you yourself admit, those communities are dying. They don’t have leadership that supports such values, and most of the oilom in that boat are either making Aliyah, becoming frummer, or just heading towards full non-observance.
Again, the current trends in Yeshivish communities to one-up each other on how k/frum we can be by throwing away important parts of our lives and education, is an acute danger to our Klal.