Aveira,
Growing up MO and becoming a flip-out obviously gave you zero insight into the charedi world. There are countless women, both in this country and in Eretz Yisrael who successfully navigate frum and secular workplaces with strong foundations in Halacha and Yiras Shamayim. They do so together with their husbands, whom they often support in Kollel and based on the advice of their Poskim, with whom they frequently consult. Perhaps it doesn’t fit your small-minded worldview but it’s a daily reality.
Why don’t you worry about your own ruchnius and let them worry about theirs. They’re probably doing much better than you are.