I’m sorry to hijack this thread, not really interested in starting a new one and not interested in looking for one that it will fit into better
The shul that I daven shachris in (because it’s near my job) is MO. Today in between the first and second minyan I eavesdropped a little on a conversation that the rabbi of the shul was having with a father and his teenage son, it seems like there is going to be an engagement in the family and the other side might want to do it in a restaurant that’s not so kosher so the son wanted to know what he should do if that is the case. The rabbi said obviously you can’t eat the meat, but the cold food shouldn’t be a problem and that includes the salads
The boy wasn’t comfortable with it
End of story one
A few nights ago I was at a simcha of the Rav of my shul where I live and one of the attendees (who is a big part of the shul) was asking who’s the caterer and found out that it was a well known caterer, so he tells this story that he was at a different simcha a while ago and asked about the meat to the mashgichim over there and they didn’t know, so he goes around to the rabbanim at the simcha and tells them the mashgichim don’t know who gives hashgacha on the meat and everyone just kept on eating
I’m sorry if the point of my stories aren’t clear, but what I’m saying is, is that everyone is judged on his level, the MO kid that will be going to a not so kosher restaurant is giving more nachas to Hashem than the rabbanim that was ok with the meat