>>>I don’t know which is worse
Making fun is worse. It’s not nice to make fun of death.
On the other hand, looking at everything through the lenses of how it affects Yidden is a very good thing, as Avira wrote.
I’ll add to Avira that not only is everything that HAPPENS in the world for the Yidden, but the very existence of the world is only for the Yidden.
As Rashi writes on the first posuk:
בראשית – בשביל ישראל ובשביל התורה שנקראו ראשית