Coffee, my experience in “in town” communities is that if someone makes themselves an outcast, then they’ll be one. For better or worse, dressing, talking, and acting differently from literally everyone else will make you stand out and make people not want to be associated with you.
I’ve never met a person who didn’t both say that they were an outcast and also state the importance they felt of maintaining fheir “individuality” and not wanting to be like everyone else.
You can’t have it both ways; not wanting to conform and then complaining when people don’t want much to do with you.