Joe, I’ve never NOT missed a kiddush club – I refuse to participate in them! If you really think they’re rare in chassidish/yeshivish minyanim, you are sadly mistaken. Or just making up things again – that’s probably more likely.
As for tuition, again, you’re making things up. You know nothing of what happens in MO schools – why would you? You’ve never sent a child to one, never mind 8 children. If you’re making 60k, then no, you’re not paying the majority of your income towards tuition. I know personally about a couple of the schools on the list above, because I have friends who send their kids there (though I do not). Tuition there, if you make 150k, is capped at 15%. If you make less than that, they assume you can’t even pay 15%, and they work with you to see what you can pay.
Stop lying so much.
In any case, regarding tuition, that’s not materialism. If anything, it shows a deeper commitment to Judaism when you spend so much on a Jewish education for your children.