@brunfin, the style of parenting you are mentioning is twisted logic.
Children don’t become better people because their parents ” tried to make their relationship with their kids greater and greater. ZERO criticism.”. I’ve seen those children. They become, for the most part, self-absorbed, narcissistic, and immature adolescents, who melt at even the slightest adversity. I’ve seen plenty of kids like that off the derech.
They can’t hold down a job because they balk at even the slightest restrictions their boss puts on them, they have difficulty dealing with spousal relationships because they have been fed “YOU’RE THE BESTEST!!!” their whole life and are too arrogant to be humble and build a two-way giving relationship.
I’d also like to mention that “No rules, no boundaries” is a disaster for the other children in the house who see behaviors that are inappropriate. And I know that you didn’t explicitly say “No rules or boundaries” but that is inherent in the “zero criticism” part. Because guess how that child is going to view that rule of needing unfiltered internet? as a criticism. “I love you and think you’re a wonderful person, but you need to wear a skirt in the house” WILL be viewed by them as you not accepting them. In fact, the whole “Just show them you love and accept them, without any rules or boundaries” mehalech is built on this wishful and fanciful idea that somehow pumping a kid up , AND JUST THINKING THEY’RE THE BEST!!!!!” will melt away all the other issues a child has.