Emesdik even if a married woman is supposed to do this and sapposed to do that your opinion makes sense I’m not negating that but. I think your just projecting your anger at yourself into them. Chill. Thoughts are not action. Second the yester hara problem is more to do with the fact that monogamy isn’t a mans nature. Maybe ask your rav if you can take another wife cuz otherwise it will lead to sin
