bja, I was trying to take your testimony at face value, even it is indirect (looks like you family and close to you do not join the army, but you do talk to others), but then you went into
> there are 3 times more non-religous draft evaders than chareidim draft evaders
Whatever your views are, and whatever the actual numbers are, this is totally irrelevant and even insulting. Those groups send large numbers of soldiers, boys and girls, for years and years, so some don’t for whatever reason. Your community (I presume from your words) do not send anyone, now a small number were sent draft notices and you point out that the other groups did not send all of theirs children?! Regardless of all other halachik and social considerations, I hope you can see the flaw of this argument. It may be that you simply are used to self-justifications that throw all possible arguments to defend your position.