I think it’s an excellent idea to single out and reward these kids. They worked hard, they deserve every recognition, and rewards they get. Let the parents and grandparents have & enjoy this nachas they get from this occasion.
As for jealousy part of it, well that shows lack of self esteem and selfishness. Maybe those kids should seek counseling for their emotional and mental health. Yes everyone gets a little jealous here and there, but if it’s to the point where you can’t be HAPPY and PROUD of a friend who receives awards for their accomplishments, then there is a definite problem with this person, or perhaps the kid thinks that he was more suited for an award someone else got.
Jealousy goes a lot further then high school graduation. You have people jealous of other’s family size. You have people who are jealous of good looking, slim people. You have people who are jealous of other’s wealth & health. You have people who are jealous of other’s happiness, this list can go on and on, so this jealousy thing does not stop at the end of high school. If there is a kid that can’t deal with the happiness and the rewards of others, then maybe they should look deep inside themselves, & see if it’s them that’s the problem and not the high achievers.
I for one am not someone who got “special” rewards from graduation, but me and my friends were happy for those who did, because we were happy with our accomplishments and the diplomas we received in front of all our families to see and to be proud of. Be comfortable & happy with your self and abilities. Take your strengths and pursue them, Take you weaknesses and work on them. You will be a much happier person, and if nothing works, then maybe a counselor is what you need.
p.s. my nephew just graduated, and I’m so proud of him, Mazal Tov!