lesschumras,
“we can all learn a lesson from this posting. Too many people make assertions about MO,chareidim,chassidim etc based upon a limited amount of information or based upon personal experience”
I agree completely.
“People on this blog ( not Sarah ) are willing to be Dam L’kaf Zchus on accused child molesters; shouldn’t the same be extended to a poster who sounds sincere in his anguish in describing the emotional pain inflicted upon his wife?”
Emotional pain is legitimate. However, I think it needs to be expressed via a vehicle other than sinning. That’s the second lesson from this posting. Emotions, however painful, do not justify doing Aveiros, particularly such a grievous sin as Motzi Shem Ra/Lashon Hara on a community.
“It’s about accepting that this person’s experiences might be different than mine and that you’ve been zocheh not to have encountered this.”
Absolutely. It is my hope that in the future, bloggers who wish to air a grievance or otherwise express emotional pain do so in a manner that avoids further Aveiros, albeit this time by the “insultee” rather than the insulter. I am working on this as well.
I hope these words are taken in the sincere spirit with which they were written.
All the best.