Although I do feel for all the girls that are being turned down due to weight problems, I’m sure this is not what you want to hear but its ain’t just the weight problems! Hundreds of girls are being turned down because of other reasons such as divorced parents, or siblings of the D. Is it their fault??? other girls are turned down cuz their family is not chashuv or rich…. is it their fault?? How about out of town or just not “with the program” is that their fault? beacause they are from out of town or didnt go to a certain seminary or don’t/do have a degree… is it always their fault?!?!
Heavier girls are in it with every one else!! Sorry… don’t think you’re being singled out. It definitely doesn’t help but you know- Many not size 2 girls get married also.
Guys also first think that they want size 2 b/c it’s what they hear and think is attractive. But once they are maskim to go out with a not size 2 girl many times (not always) they actually realize the girl is a pretty girl anyway! I think we just gotta remove the boosha of “what will ppl say?! Oh No!” and as a society realize that meany times heavier girls are really geshmak too! many of them gorgeous also.
hatzlacha to everyone looking for shidduchim!! I really believe and hope that every one of us is davening everyday for all in this matter- those we know and those we don’t.
And for any shadchan that tells a girl or guy to lose weight for shidduchim… use some tact please! Some ppl have lost a lot more than you can comprehend before you even met them. It is apparently not as easy as just starving one self overnight and poof- weight sheds off.