Sorry, Mariner, but I do not agree with a great deal of what you said. And your words do a disservice to the very loving adoptive and step-parents, who would tell you they could not love their kids more if they HAD birthed them. While I understand the point you are TRYING to make, that the love a mother has for the child who grew inside her womb is something special, you err in my opinion, in thinking that the mother who did not grow that child in her womb would not feel that same love. In fact, an argument could be made for the idea that a woman who could not birth children at all, would just as strongly if not more strongly emotionally connect with the child she is able to adopt, because she does not take that child’s existence for granted. Love SHOULD be an automatic and innate emotion between birth mother and child, but medical evidence shows that all too often, it is not the case. I am not going to discuss this with you further, as you seem to have a personal stake in this issue, and I am not qualified to
address your concerns. I am not sure why it is so important to you to make your point, that you prefer not to see the possibility that another viewpoint is also valid. This is only a blog, after all.
I am also not sure why you brought rapists into this thread. A pervert is a pervert. There is no love in such a person. There is only good acting, if they are able to convince anyone that they are good parents.