Let me get this straight: the “lenient” view of tinokos shel nishba says that most people ARE. How do we know that gedolim who hold this way are in actuality not being MACHMIR on ahavas Yisrael?
There was mention of what the Shulchan Aruch says on this. Obviously one is not going straight to the Shulchan Aruch but a qualified rav to interpret it for the 21st century as this kind of widespread assimilation is something of an anomaly. So what does the same qualified rav say about using the internet for the coffee room?