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My husband did learn in kollel during the first two years we were married. He arranged to take time off from school to do this. Neither my parents nor his were able to provide financial support, but we did not expect them to do this. B”H I found a job that supported our family (we did not take the small stipend offered by the kollel either). We didn’t need cleaning help, since there was only us and our baby, and B”H my husband did not have to take on other work.
I really admire you and the other people I know who learn in kollel for so long, and take on so many jobs to do this.