” If anything I always feel like I’m not doing enough.”
If you are earning the parnassah and having children (if none yet, then B”EH when you are ready), then you are already doing a great deal. Women in the traditional stay at home role, are with their families all day long,and when their husbands get home from work OR Yeshiva, that does not give the husbands a pass on parenting and sharing in the running of the household. I commend your husband for doing his part. he is not “helping,” he is being a responsible adult. I used to get upset when someone would ask me if my husband was babysitting when I went out without my children. My answer was always that he was PARENTING, just as I do when he is not home. Fortunately my husband was always mature enough to realize that he and I are equal partners in our Bayis ne’eman, and even though one of us may have a differnt tafkid from the other at specific points of the day, when we are both home, we are in it totally together.