Mrs. Beautiful, I am very grateful to my parents for really doing the best they could with the tools that they had. However I will not allow even my beloved parents to hurt me.
It may seem as though I don’t show enough respect to my parents, but it is the best I can do without putting my own feelings, self worth, and basic sanity at risk.
As far as how I want my children to treat me? I am a very different kind of parent to them and they know the difference.
I don’t feel like I disrespect my parents I simply can’t fulfill the mitzva as prescribed.