I think we all understand this theoretically and agree with many of the adults here. However, practically some things are not realistic.
Some of us have class from 8:00 am until 5:00 or 7/8:00 pm followed by hours and hours of research and homework followed by exams followed by home responsibilities followed by responsibilities to our pears and community and don’t forget about work to pay for tuition. As great as these privlages are, they come with multiple responsibilities.
Realistically, I’m lucky if once a week works during crunch times. Yes, we must marry and have a family but we need to responsibly support them as well.
We’d love to be completly finished and sure in one week, but, most of us simply can’t. Most of us don’t even know how we will be able to plan a wedding while completing school set up a home and miss time for the wedding itself and sheva brachot. Physically, the answer is obvious. We can’t do what we can’t do. So, please, stop pressuring your daughters and sons to move faster as they have alot to think about aside from marrige and children. They have enough stress don’t hurt them. Too many of my friends come crying to me that they can’t make up their mind and their parents and shadchan are demanding definitive answers. Please, don’t be the one to hurt your child that instead of turning to you they turn to a friend with such a delicate matter.