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Hmmmm….is there a rebbetzin, perhaps a baalas tshuva or someone who went through yesurim herself and overcame them, who you can speak to? Indeed, most organizations have trouble dealing with someone who does not fit their usual profile because they have already assisted hundreds of people fitting that profile and have never really helped anyone like you (even if they would really like to be there for everyone). But somewhere, usually outside the organizations, there is someone you can speak to who can help you and guide you from ahavas Yisroel and a sense of identifying with you.
OK now I am going into tough territory and I hope I am handling this right (I have done some volunteer counseling myself online and semi-anonymously so I have some experience especially as I myself was off for a long time):
If you are bothered by people staring at you, ask yourself why.
If you think that they know you and see you as strange and different because you went off, and you are now sincere about coming back, pay them no attention and just think that they are rude and crude. (Reminds me of a not so polite rhyme/song I made up about real or imaginary people who don’t like the fact that I wear a full beard which was really about not being ashamed of keeping the mitzvos behiddur…I won’t share it here b/c it would be censored LOL).
If you are being stared at because of your dress and you feel ready to return to the right path, be triply careful about tznius.
Then you can say to yourself that if someone is staring at you, it is because you are a good example and that his reason for staring is a good one.
Hate to make this public, but ALL guys notice girls at some time – we can’t always keep our heads down or out to the road/wall because we occasionally have to cross busy streets and we have to pay attention to pedestrians when driving. But a good guy will look at a girl who is improperly dressed and, if she is Jewish and known to be same, pity her and not think much of her except that she has fallen. On the other hand, when a nice guy sees a nicely and properly dressed girl especially nowadays when girls are not as careful as they should be, his thoughts are not improper – he thinks, hmmm…someone is doing what she should and is a good example (and if he knows who you are he may just have a shidduch for you LOL).