SJsinNYC- my point is not that we should not be in the same town as boys, of course we can smile to neighbors, speak to relatives, but spending time together- as a FRIEND- that does not bring any good in most situations. Note that Im not saying it’s wrong- because everyone has to know what is right/wrong for them.
Besides, I dont know how many years ago you got married, but in today’s world- it’s pretty bad out there between girls and boys. Many of them are just there to flirt, and flirt they do…It’s just not right to spend time with a boy that’s just a friend- boys are not supposed to see or talk with girls for no reason other than for shidduch purposes(or any other time it’s necessary.)
BTW- we also have many divorces- c’mon- for a bunch of reasons other than not knowing each others before. Thats not the reason pple are divorced.