Usually the parent understands the child better than they think. Unfortunately in so many couples where they went against their parents the match ended in divorce. I say U MUST have your parents complete complete haskama
I dont know if I would say usually. I know many people who have gone on different paths from their family (still orthodox, but moved to the right or left), and their parents didn’t quite understand what they needed. Did the parents want whats best? Absolutely! But there was definitely a disconnect in the choice the parents would make vs the child.
An example: a friend got engaged to a guy. Her mother wasn’t thrilled with the match because he is an argumentative person (he is a wonderful guy – a lawyer – and he has that typical lawyer personality). Her mother wanted a much more calm/serene person for her daughter so her house would always be full of peace. It was a wonderful thought, but ultimately this guy is the one who is right for her. They are B”H happily married with a daughter. So who was right? The mother or the daughter? In this case, the daughter.