bored,
yes, I agree with brook that you are definitely spoiled. What I find really wierd is that you don’t know it! There were certain things that I probably got more than I need and compared to some standards, maybe I was spoiled as well but I don’t think I had that sense of entitlement.
Realize that even once you’re married, as generous as your parents are, it will be you who will have to budget. It is very common for married couples nowadays to go to parents for shabbos because they can’t afford to by the food. Please keep that in mind.
As brook mentioned (yes, she does have a head between those shoulders after all), you have to make sure you are marrying the right person. You can’t say, “my dream is that he should learn but if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t” because maybe he really can stay learning for a while and you can’t. Is it right to take somoene else’s dream and ruin it? And even if he does stay, you might be miserable! It might be painful, but you have to seriously think if you can do it. It’s a pity that so many people feel pushed to do something that is not really meant for them because that what is socially acceptable.
Also, why not get in more hours a week?
Please don’t take what I said above in the wrong way. I don’t mean to say these things to insult you. (I really don’t know you so you can’t take it personally) I just want to make you aware.