bored@work
I was not in Israel forever. I’m only here a short while. But I am not from Flatbush, so maybe that is why I was not aware that this is a common phenomenon?
brook,
“it’s when i’m already out and i can’t take the way the guy looks that drives me nuts. it’s such a stupid reason to say no, but at the same time – i can’t marry the guy!”
I think that is a perfectly valid reason to say no. You will have to look at him the rest of your life after all! Would you paint your walls a color you can’t stand? And you’re not even marrying your walls! (It’s when people say no to “problems” that will have absolutely no effect on their lives, or because they are embarressed what others will think that are “stupid” reasons, but if you marry a person who you can’t stand how they look that will not make for a good, healthy marriage.)
bita,coach,
try an experiment and open a thread that is specifically about ANY topic besides shidduchim. Let’s see if it stays “on topic” (in other words does not go to shidduchim)