teen: the following, on parent/teen relationship, from my famous source (ask moish) “the book” 😉
“Does it seem that you are always talking about what you can and can’t do? … How are you supposed to honor and respect your parents when it can be so challenging to relate to them? What does G-d want from you?…
The teen years are a time of transition. A transition from a time when your parents made almost all of your decisions for you, to a time when you begin to take responsibility for your own behavior…
Think about it for a minute. As desperately as you are struggling to be in control of the decisions in your life, your parents are struggling just as desperately with the idea that you are no longer a young child…
The real truth of who you are is somewhere in between, and both you and your parents are struggling to find that balance. This struggle isn’t an easy one…
Your parents love you and care about you. And they are struggling with this transition just as you are. So love them. Realize that they are trying. DO YOUR BEST TO INCLUDE THEM AND BE OPEN WITH THEM. Most importantly, try to work through this time in your life WITH them.
Sure, you could argue 24/7 with your parents. It just get’s a little tiring, that’s all.
Who wants to waste energy on that?”
-Rabbi Hochberg