can’t disagree with mod39 simply because his post applies to our generation. However, I think the ultimate height and madreiga would be what feivel described. Is there anyone like that in our dor?
IIRC, I once heard a shiur in which a midrash was quoted which stated that Jews were punished for not properly crying over the death of Yehoshua. Happiness is not a universal.
What do you mean the post applies to our generation? Was there simcha when Rebbe Yehuda HaNassi died? Should there have been?
Was there simcha when Bais Rishon was being destroyed? Baid Sheini? Should there have been?