I’m not good at accepting compliments, but was told that accepting a compliment graciously is a good middah. So- thank you asdfg, charlie & ames for your faith in me. But- you should know that it’s all about getting the right ideas, perspective and hashkafos from the best books out there. Plus- everything learned in yeshiva/school.
I wasn’t gonna give away my little secret, but I express myself much better through writing than through talking. So to you it may seem amazing, but it’s like what you do when speaking to someone face to face about something very meaningful to you: you talk with emotion etc…
>>moish:
and sure i could leave my phone home on shabbos. but that’s not a big deal so i don’t see why it would make any difference. <<
don’t you get it? It absolutely does not need to be a big deal for you. No problem if you feel it’s simple. That’s the perfect thing to start with! You will see results quickly, you will start feeling good about yourself- you made the effort and you were successful! You will have a little more self control just by making that conscious effort/decision of: yes I will do this now, no I will not do that now etc.
And- I endorse havesomeseichel’s suggestion of modeh ani. It is the perfect starting point and really puts your day in perspective.
At first you can just say it. Once this becomes habit, you can start thinking about what the words mean. By waking up every morning and thanking Hashem for returning your neshama… well, that kinda gives a person a strong awareness, no?
Even if you don’t see it directly “rubbing off” on the rest of your day, it is having an affect. Believe me it does.
Just wake up whenever you usually do- say modeh ani- and go on with your day however you always do. That’s it! Try it for a week and let us know.
Hatzlocha rabba!!