SJSinNYC: I quoted the poskim, and it is psak din that I’ve brought. (The psak brought down the Gemora the psak is based on.) And this issue isn’t a machlokes poskim. It is a clear-cut Shulchan Orach. (And I’ve brought various poskim down.)
You are correct, I wasnt reading carefully.
I cannot imagine that its 100% that clear cut though. Some examples that may require some though:
1) A man and woman are drowning. The man says “I think I can make it, save the woman who wont make it for sure.” He isnt sure he can make it, who do you save?
2) A man and woman are drowning. The man says “I think I am fatally injured and have lost a lot of blood. Saving me wont actually keep me alive.” Who do you save?
3) Your mother is drowning and a random man – does kibud aim trump this? To be honest, whether it does or not, I would save my mother. I could never be a part of my mothers death.
I never learnt about this, so I don’t really know. I would just imagine its not this clear cut, since halacha is rarely so straightforward. I could definitely be wrong though. Is there absolutely no machlokes on this point?
This morning, I actually held the door open for 4 men. Why? Because it just made sense based on how we arrived at the doorway at the same time. Yes, I open the door for my husband when the situation makes sense and he does the same for me.
Wait!!!! So whats better – chivalry or feminism??? [I’m not really a feminist, but this does make me laugh]