It’s easy to say “Don’t judge me by the way I dress”, but the way we dress DOES say about the person that we are. I have finally learned this and come to term with this fact.
I have found that most of the time (and we could go round and round with this), judgements are based on the person’s perceptions, not what we are trying to say. Its usually people’s prejudice that guides them in this manner and that is different from person to person.
if i see a frum person not dressed tzniusdig, and i dont mean not in the so called mold. i mean untznius. then i would not eat in her home. if shes not keeping whichever halacha of tznius why on earth should i assume shes keeping every halacha of kashrus? im not saying she isnt though. i just am not going to assume she does.
Flatbush, by that logic, if someone tells me loshon hara, or I find out they cheat on their taxes or that they used a blech improperly, you wouldnt eat by them either. Which ultimately means, you wouldnt eat by anyone because everyone sins in some way.