joseph: just b/c someone did a study & found out that in general it works better a certain way, does that mean every single person must do that exactly?
perhaps you can argue that oomis1105 is the minority, & it works better your way for most people. but how can you say exactly how long each person in the world should have been dating?
& “short” is relative – how do u even know that what oomis1105 is talking about is longer than what they think is ok?