Joseph:
Of course the wife should give her earnings to her husband, he does own it (her earnings) as per the Takanah of Mezonos Tachas Masse Yadyim (Many places in Shas, including BK 8B). She does have the right to reject this Takanah, but her husband may not be happy about it.
It has nothing to do with shidduch dating.
Ames: The wife should be submissive and the husband has the last word.
“Yes Dear” 🙂
Seroiusly, Rav Miller is talking when the woman’s advice is valued, thought over, and they discuss the issue. Then they (husband and wife) come to an agreement (or at least understand each other’s reasoning), and they implement. Not much different than equals (assuming they are willing to be agree they like each other enough to give in on the silly stuff and follow halacha so they agree to ask a Shaila on the important stuff).
The problem is whan one side (either husband or wife) is a Moshel over the other side and does without a discussion on what the best method is. “My way or the Highway” should not be in the vernacular of a Jewish home. The husband MUST allow his wife to make him into a better person, and Vice Versa.