Dr. Pepper: I am not even debating the notion of whether there are more “good” than “good” guys and possible explanations for that phenomena.
Simply put if we have 150 girls on a island and 100 guys. The max number of girls who can get married is 100. Perhaps the leftover 50 will be the “good” girls because the 100 guys are “not good” guys. Either way you slice it, there are 50 girls with no shot. The reason for the inequity of the numbers?
AGE GAP
Squeak:
“And in the Jewish world at large this problem is unheard of.” Blatantly Incorrect.
Please speak to SYAS, YU Connect and the myriad of other organizations that have their finger on the pulse of the non yeshivish dating scene. Please ask them if they have equal numbers of older girls and older guys. Please ask them if the typical marriage is close in age or not. I HAVE DONE MY RESEARCH
You have yet to present a reasonable argument disproving
A. Popultation Growth (younger grades significantly larger than older grades)
B. Girls start dating a couple years earlier than guys (pretty obvious)
C. The natural outcome of A+B = many more girls in the shidduch pool= many many girls having no shot to get married not at 19 and not at 35
If you care to debate A-B-C fine. If the issue is how to alleviate the problem or perhaps despite the situation the solutions are more detrimental than the present problem, that’s fine as well. Please clarify the point of debate.